Marriage Alignment

Sometimes we are not on the same page.

would you like to improve your communication, increase your trust and have greater alignment with your spouse, fiance or partner?

Things were so good. We were well aligned before, but now it seems different. How did this happen? Where did we go wrong? What can we do to get it back?

Can we be honest with ourselves for a moment? Most of us do not know what we’re doing. We are just making it up as we go. We don’t really know what being married is like until we are married. We look at other relationships and couples to evaluate how we are doing or what we should be doing. When conflict appears, which it will, we don’t know why or how to deal with it.

The reason, because you are missing key information in truly knowing who you and your spouse are and how to live together? There are three key bits of information that most people don’t know and are not being taught. Once you know these three things about one another, your ability to communicate and align improve exponentially.

Discover your purpose

Do you ever see your spouse shine and over flow with happiness and spirit? Do you ever feel that way? Do you know what makes that feeling happen? Would you like to?

There’s a lot involved in having and maintaining a successful marriage. At BLC we believe that you were created unique. Each of us has a unique set of skills, knowledge and experience that defined us. We believe you were created for a unique purpose. However most of us do not know what our purpose is. We need to figure that out! When you live your purpose, you share your love with others. When you see your spouse over flowing with joy, it is because they are living their purpose. Wouldn’t it be great to intentionally help your spouse live their purpose and share their love with others intentionally?

Discover your Core Values

Do you know that you have a set of rules you live your life by that are not negotiable? All of us do. Here’s the problem. Most of us don’t know what our rules are. Do you know yours?

Do you or your spouse ever get extremely upset? Do you feel frustrated by people or each other and don’t have the words to explain why? Are there things that your spouse does that just set you off? Would you like to know why? Would it help if you could have a peaceful and logical conversation about these things without things blowing out of proportion?

We all have a set of rules we live our lives by. These rules are unwritten, ill defined and for the most part unknown. Yet we hold everyone around us accountable to them. These rules are called Core Values. We need to uncover and discover both of your Core Values. These Core Values are the key to better communications and understanding. Often our rules align, but sometimes they conflict. Knowing your rules will help you understand each other and the world around us better. Knowing these rules will allow you to have gentle conversations around your conflicts.

Discover your Vision

When you first were married everything was probably great. You felt like you were both aligned in our direction. We’ll get married, be together, and pursue our dreams and goals. But over time, things changed. Perhaps we started to drift apart. We didn’t seem to want the same things as much, or we started to develop a chasm between us. Small infractions turned into big ones. Separation becomes the norm. What happened? How did we grow so far apart? How do we get back together?

We believe there are a few simple exercises you can do to help you and your spouse get back on track. The last of these exercises is to discover and create a common Vision. A vision is a story of the future. It is written in great detail. It is a conversation and agreement on what you want your life to look like. The problem is it is all in your head. Both of you have a vision and often these are not aligned. By creating a common vision, you can discover and share your dreams. You can identify conflict and make compromises to work together to achieve your dreams.

Team Alignment

These key ingredients will help you and your spouse relate, communicate, align and work together much better than you ever have.

Now you know the three missing key ingredients to improving your marriage. Once you discover the answer to the three questions - What is your purpose? What are your Core Values? and What is your vision? You will be much better equipped to achieve greater alignment with your spouse.

The next problem… The answer to these questions are hard to figure out. Most people need help. Most people need outside assistance to help them in discovering their answers to these tough questions.

If you would like help, we have a simple four step process where we work together to discover these ingredients. Understanding these elements allows you to work better together and honor each other along the way. We can quickly transform a struggling relationship into an aligned and effective team who understands one another and respects where they’re coming from.

If you are thinking about getting married, are currently married or unsure if you want to continue to be married, please consider doing a Marriage Alignment with BLC. Our process works like nothing else out there today. This is not counseling, it is unlocking the keys to your happiness, health and hope.

Marriage Alignment

Four session program to get ALIGNMENT.